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5/18  Jackson age 4

5/31  Caroline age 3

Dates to Remember

Music Man fee due end of April for 4 months.  $20 per child covers May, June, July & August.  We are only doing 4 mos at a time now and no longer collect monthly.

NOTE:  Music man will be here Monday May 21st.

Upcoming Events

Please check our Day Care calendar tab on this page for all monthly events, closures, special dates....

click the links  below for more news. 

Kids Weather



Message from the Berenstain Bears

Hi everyone, it's been awhile since we put out our online newsletter.  With the email mess up, we were unable to send it out.  We pretty much have that all back and working again and once again we are bringing you our monthly newsletter.  You will receive May, June,  and then it will be July/August combo newsletter,  and then again in September and etc. 

We shall play a little catch up here.  What have we been up too?  Our last newsletter was in December where we updated our Harvest lunch event.   Then in December we had our annual Parents night out and the music man here to entertain them.  After that it was the Annual Holiday event, where we met up at the pizza parlor,  had Santa there (Thanks to Kenadies grandpa) to read a story and pass out gifts.  The kids sang some songs, open presents and gave their parents things they made.  It was a great night.  That was followed by a Week off for our Winter break.  It lead into January and celebrating the new year.

We had some kids leave us.  Madison left us to move to Yuba City,  little Olivia left us because Dad was home and they live on Howe Ave.  Andrew left and moved to Antioch, and most recently Big Olivia left because mom is due to have a baby and will be at home.  Two more will leave late June, they are our Pre-K kids graduating out and then will be on vacation and activities just before starting school.  It's been a strange year.  Olivia will be back for graduation which is June 3oth along with our parent annual pot luck picnic.  We are all looking forward to that.  Since January, the kids have had fun with our valentine activities and goody bags,  and again for Easter for the big annual egg hunt, goody bags and etc.  They had nearly 500 eggs to go find.  Every now and then we find one they miss.  WE are forever staying busy. 

We have put the back yard back together, and the kids are happy to be outside again.  They missed their outside activities and toys. 

April 30th we will welcome two new kids into our group.  They are siblings.  Jackson age  years and Olivia age 5 years..  Another Olivia !!  she will graduate with our kids in June and be here until she starts kindergarten. 

Everything changing.  

The Bernstein bears are still the mascots for this year. And the book bag is still going home.  We will start it back up for May and June, After that the bears can go home for nightly visits without the books and journal for the summer. 

In September we will have a new mascot and books to start all over with again. Be sure to check the calendar and see what the events and dates are coming up for May, June, July, August, and September.  Keep in mind that we are closed for a 4 day weekend for Memorial weekend.  Enjoy the rest of the newsletter.

Farewells and Welcomes ....

Farewell to Olivia A. who left us in April.  Mom and  Dad are expecting a baby girl very soon this month (May)

Olivia will come back to see us in June at the Preschool Graduation. 

Good luck to the whole family bringing home the new baby. 

Welcome Olivia B. and Jackson B.  Brother and sister.  They joined us April 31st.  Olivia is 5 and will graduate out this summer to attend Kindergarten.  She will be part of the Preschool Graduation group.

Jackson will be 4 later this month. 

Mom and Dad are Jason and Jessica.

Welcome to the Alexander Preschool School.

Welcome Liam,  he joined us May 1st.  Liam is 3 years old and will be part of the Preschool group.  His parents are Tiffanie and Neil.

Welcome to Alexander Preschool. 

The Music Man..

Mr. Paul the music man has been entertaining and teaching music to the kids for nearly 5 years here at Alexander Preschool.  Mr. Paul has been a great delight to the kids and they love it when he comes in every month.  He has also come to our preschool graduations and played music with the kids there,  he has joined us for the past 3 years for the Holiday Parents night out.  And he will be joining us again in December for the Parents night out. 

It's been a privilege having Mr. Paul visit our child care and other child cares in the community.  We were his first assignment when he started this new adventure of doing music time with preschoolers.

I had met Paul when he requested to join the Sacramento Valley Association for the Education of Young Children.  We became friends and we started talking about his many talents and his love of music.  He was finishing up his Doctorial Degree and his Thesis was on music with children and the learning aspects on how children learn through Music.  And then the idea sprung up to put that into motion and literally visit the child cares and all the kids.  Now 5 years later he has several child cares he visits throughout the month plus the larger centers.  Every year he performs at various community events including the popular Banana Festival.  He has a band and they go out and play at these events, plus other events.  He travels around and attends conferences for Early Education and teaches workshops about the importance of music in Early Education.  We are grateful to have Paul has part of our Preschool.  This Month May 19th is Paul's birthday and we want to give a big shout out to Paul and wish him a very very HAPPY BIRTHDAY.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MR. PAUL,  and here is to many many more....We all love you here at

Alexander Child Care. 

5 problems with being a push over parent

By Amy Morin, LCSW

Do you ever give in when your child pesters and begs? Do you take away a toy or a privilege for misbehavior only to give it back right away because your child promises to be good? These are just a few examples of what it means to be a pushover parent. 

Being a pushover makes parenting easier in the short-term. You can make your child happy, escape a meltdown, and get through the day without a battle.

But in the long-term, backing down and giving in will cause problems for both you and your child.

1. Your Child Won’t Take You Seriously

If you make empty threats or you go back on your word, your child won't take you seriously. He'll learn to tune out what you say because your behavior isn't in line with your words. 

It's important for kids to know that you mean what you say and you say what you mean. Otherwise, your child won't view you as a credible, competent authority figure. 

2. Bad Behavior is Reinforced

When your child cries because you said he can’t have another cookie, and you give in, you’ve taught him that crying is an excellent way to get what he wants. Each time you give in to your child—whether it’s because you feel guilty or because you want to avoid a complete meltdown—you reinforce misbehavior. 

It’s important for kids to realize that misbehavior isn’t effective. Otherwise, bad behavior will only get worse.

Show your child that you won’t give in to temper tantrumswhining, or declarations that, “You’re the meanest Mom ever!”

3. Good Cop/Bad Cop Scenarios

Often, when one parent is the pushover, the other parent compensates by becoming overly strict. This can set you up for one parent being the good cop and the other being the bad cop.

It's a toxic parenting habit that can lead to lots of confusion and frustration for kids. 

Work together with your partner to parent as a team. It’s important for your child to see that both of you are backing one another up and reinforcing the rules in a similar fashion. 

4. Your Child May Experience Serious Consequences

Kids who grow up with overindulgent or permissive parents are more likely to exhibit behavioral issues. They may also be more likely to experience health issues, ranging from obesity to dental cavities.

Kids need authoritative parents who can set limits and stick to them. So whether you are insisting your child brush his teeth or you refuse to let him eat one more helping, refusing to be a pushover will improve your child's health and well-being. 

5. Kids Don’t Want to be in Charge

Although your child may behave bossy, and he may say he wants to make the rules, kids don’t actually want to be in charge. In fact, kids who don’t feel like their parents have everything under control are likely to experience anxiety. And when you can’t set clear limits and healthy boundaries, your child will question your ability to keep him safe.

Show your child that when you set a limit, like, “No riding your bike past that tree,” that you’ll make sure he follows that rule.

If you constantly bend the rules, or don’t provide consequences when those rules get broken, your child may lack confidence that you’ll take the necessary steps to keep him safe.

Break the Cycle of Being a Pushover Parent

It's never too late to change your parenting style. Deciding that you're going to become less permissive and more authoritative, will be better for you and your child. 

If you’re used to being a pushover, however, it can be hard to break the cycle. Behavior problems are likely to get worse before they get better. 

When you try to stand your ground, your child will call your bluff at first, so you’ll need to be prepared to stand firm.

Develop a plan to help you deal with behavior problems that are likely to arise when you don’t give in.

Teach Your Child to Be Civil and Respectful, Even When Others Are Not.

By Katherine Lee

One of the most important skills children should learn is how to disagree with others respectfully. School-age kids are establishing their individuality and independence, forming their own opinions about things, and figuring out what they like and don't like. It's only natural that they may occasionally not see eye-to-eye on something with a friend, family member, or even a teacher or coach.

Developmentally speaking, it's good for children to learn to form their own opinions and to be able to express their thoughts and ideas. But it's important for kids to understand that they must express themselves in a respectful manner, whether they're discussing something with adults or with other kids. In fact, the ability to calmly share your ideas even when it conflicts with other people's viewpoints is a sign of maturity. When you see adults who are not able to do this, they appear immature.

What Parents Can Do to Encourage Polite Debate and Discussions
  1. Keep an eye on what your child is seeing when you are watching the news, and monitor what your child sees online. Politicians and pundits may yell insults at each other on TV. People may make horrible comments online. It's more important than ever that children today learn how to reject meanness and bullying and choose respect and civility.
  1. Encourage your child to be a good listener, and make sure you model that behavior by giving him your attention when he speaks to you. Listening is a sign of respect and is an important skill for school, as well as later in life. Teach your child to really listen to what someone else is saying and try to understand their point of view, and to not think about an argument for what they're saying when they're talking.
  1. Talk about current events at dinner. Regular family dinners are important for kids' health and development and have been linked to positive outcomes like lower risk of obesity, better school performance, and higher self-esteem. They are also a prime opportunity for kids to learn to express their opinions about what's going on in the world and in their lives. Encourage your child to talk about current events (school-Age kids can start reading the paper or a kids' news magazine like Time for Kids); a book she read; or something she's learning in school. Exchange ideas, and give respect to each other's opinions.
  2. Have him practice seeing things from others' point of view. This is one of the fundamental aspects of empathy, which has been shown to be important for kids' success later in life. When kids get into the habit of seeing things from other people's perspective, they learn to see things in less clear cut ways ("I'm right; you're wrong") and give value to things, even if they don't agree with them.
  3. Teach your child to stay true to his beliefs and thoughts. It can be hard to go your own way when others are doing something different. Tell your child to be confident, and remind him that being sure of one's own ideas and thoughts does not mean you have to insult other people's opinions to make your own stronger—that's the true sign of confidence in your own opinion.
  1. Make sure she understands that texts or emails still need to be polite. Kids and adults alike are constantly on mobile devices today, and a lot of communication happens via email, texts, and instant messages. It's important that kids understand that they need to still express themselves respectfully on those platforms. Teach kids to never insult other people's thoughts and to always try to see their point of view, just as they would when speaking to them in person.
  2. Never, ever insult someone for their opinion. When you disagree on concepts or beliefs or ideas, it should never get personal. Insults or name-calling should not be a part of any discussion.


Sunny Side up Tostada

Ingredients Servings 2  

1 package (10 3/8 ounces) of
 Santa Fe-Style Rice & Beans (can be served on the Tortilla or on the side)
2 large eggs
shredded lettuce,
avocado optional
2 whole wheat tortillas 
Hot sauce (optional)


Prepare rice & beans according to package directions. Cook eggs sunny-side-up. Bake tortillas on baking sheet at 400° F for a few minutes on each side until crispy.

  put lettuce on tortilla, then

Spoon rice & beans onto tortillas. Top each with an egg and (hot sauce Optional)

put avocado on the side.

May Curriculum

May 2018


Letters of the month:




Upcoming Events and Closures



Sunday May 13th  MOTHERS DAY

Monday May 21st  MUSIC MAN DAY

Friday May 25th CLOSED for memorial day weekend

Monday May 28th  CLOSED memorial day.


Sunday June 17th  FATHERS DAY

Monday June 18th  MUSIC MAN DAY

Friday June 22nd  PARENT HOOKY DAY (day care closed for this field trip)

Saturday June 30th  PRESCHOOL GRADUATION,  Parent / family picnic pot luck


Summer fun camp begins

Wednesday July 4th CLOSED

Friday July 13th  CLOSED for summer break

and week of July 16-20th.  

Monday July 23rd MUSIC MAN DAY


Monday Aug. 20   MUSIC MAN DAY

Summer fun camp continues

End of August Music man fees due for the next 4 mos.  (Sept,Oct,Nov,Dec)


Monday Sept. 3rd  CLOSED for Labor Day

Tuesday Sept. 4th BACK TO PRESCHOOL begins

Monday Sept. 17th MUSIC MAN DAY 


Monday Oct. 8th  CLOSED for Columbus day

Monday Oct. 15th MUSIC MAN DAY

Friday Oct. 19th  PUMPKIN PATCH FIELD TRIP.  Day care closed for this field trip


Thur. Oct. 31st  Costumes and Halloween goodies,  parent trick/treating


Monday November 19th  MUSIC MAN DAY

Wednesday Nov. 21st.  Close 12:30/  followed with Parent Harvest Luncheon

Thur/Fri  Nov.  22, 23rd.  CLOSED FOR THANKSGIVING


Friday Dec. 14th  PARENTS NIGHT OUT (free) & Music man

Friday Dec. 21st.  CLOSE  5 PM.  EARLY -  Meet up at Round Table pizza at 6:30 pm. for Christmas party. 

Monday Dec. 24th  Through Tuesday January 1st.  CLOSED FOR WINTER BREAK

New schedules will be sent out in January 2019